it doesn't mater, folks social skills have atrophied and their anxiety/depression levels have skyrocketed.

i do well on dating apps, but most women i meet have poor social skills and mental health problems, and refuse to address/acknowledge them. I've also seen this same thing in real life and it's even worse with generation z. folks just no longer how to assert themselves or communicate. I ran a 3rd space for a decade almost, and basically quit because a few years after pandemic it became weirder and weirder and unstable and hostile folks kept coming and causing problems and blaming other folks for their rudeness.

you're not going to be able to form healthy romantic relationships if you refuse to take care of your mental health and practice basic social graces.