social media has convinced folks anything less than perfect means your partner is a total loser.

and everything you possible do is wonderful and perfect and above and criticism.

it's literally insane and the reason why most people are single. they want their partner to be like an elite marathon runner while they can barely walk 5 blocks without getting winded.

people were way more humble and chill before social media brain rotted everyone, but that was over a decade ago at this point. also has nothing to do with dating apps, it's just how folks thing about relationships now. also the popularity of toxic gender war bullshit is off the charts.

I felt exactly this way, and then my wife left me in at the start of this year. The apps are now a complete shitshow compared to when I last used them in ~2020, and I'm not in any kind of scene adjacent to dating. This isn't directed at you (good luck in your marriage), but to anyone else reading this there is hope. I randomly bumped into a girl six weeks ago, plucked up the courage to ask for her number (I've literally only done this once in my life) and we've been going steady since. I now believe in karma and am happier than I've ever been.