imo the ukraine stuff in and of itself is a hallmark of subordination to the us
You miss one important thing: the existance of unlimited European racism. Even IF Russia had looked like the better alternative over the US (it didn't) once normalization started in the late 90s/early 2000s, I still don't think the Europeans would cooperate to mutual benefit -- we truly are that racist. Which makes it even more frustrating given that
it would be in the eu’s best interest to forge ties with russia
is true.
Subordination to the US is defo one thing, but never ever underestimate how western European racism shapes our material conditions.