Neither is being mean, as it turns out.

Lol. What a childish take. How about, "Worry about yourself and your own problems. If it doesn't hurt you, you can't tell people what to do, and you shouldn't want to either. If they ask, that's one thing. But jumping on your soapbox every chance you get to preach the virtues of veganism is the same energy as religious zealots who try to recruit everyone they speak to. Nobody wants to be around that all the time. Don't be that person."