Never heard of "Foid" (nor do I know what it means) but "-maxxing" has become pretty widespread now and afaik even the original term ("looksmaxxing") wasn't a term dehumanizing women, just a dumb idea (from a community that dehumanizes women). Usually, the term "-maxxing" is used highly ironically, too, from what I could gather and quite disconnected from incel communities (maybe even claimed away, it's not "their slang" anymore).

Also I am in my thirties and not really connected to youth slang (much less even to american youth slang since I'm from Germany). To tell me that one does not know what to tell me when making a statement as above is the least helpful thing to do.

As a father of two boys under 10, this is, and has been, terrifying me. I know they are going to be exposed to it. I know they are great, caring, open-minded, loving kids, and I hope I've thus far raised them right....but I've also had a few friends fall into the incel path along the way.

Like, I already know that Trump's 2016 popularity was almost entirely driven by through 4chan, getting him popular enough to hold through the primaries while everyone else dropped out was almost completely meme-driven and aimed at impressionable young men. And by then I had already known 4chan as being a decades-long toxic dump of the internet. Shit...remember 2016 r/the_donald? Was practically 4chan-lite.

And don't get me started on 2008, Ron Paul, and early reddit. Holy shit, man, having fallen into his fandom then and now looking at it from the outside...2008 Ron Paul feels like it was a goddamn psyop aimed at young men. Like a proof-of-concept for leveraging social-media for 2016 Trump.

I said something about that already: https://discuss.tchncs.de/comment/26760359