Honestly...the discord notification or my phone vibrating.

When you're busy with something but the crew starts a back and forth in the group chat and it just keeps going off.

There should be a setting that only sends a notification once from the same channel over a set period of time.

I find I simultaneously want them to stfu but also know everything they're saying.

Its not the notification sound mind you. Its the sound of the phone vibrating against whatever its resting on.