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Who is/was the biggest jerk in your life? (lemmy.world)
submitted 3 months ago by to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world
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I don't need actual names. But the context by which you know them should be included. This must be someone you have met or see regularly. Celebs/political people you dont like are not on the table, unless you've met and spent time with them.

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[–] 2 points 3 months ago* (3 children)

There are a few people who have acted like jerks towards me in the past, but I don't know what those people were dealing with in their lives during that time so I'm not going to dismiss them entirely as a person because of it. Them acting that way is more about them than it's about me anyway. Some people just can't help themselves. I don't want to be around these people but I also don't blame them for it as if they could choose to be otherwise.

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 3 months ago (2 children)

    So you're in the camp of bad people don't exist inherently? I've talked to people who hold that opinion. I don't agree but I'm glad there is that kind of optimism out there.

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  • [–] 1 point 3 months ago (1 child)

    It's not so much that I don't think bad people exist - I just don't believe in them authoring that bad behaviour and then being personally responsible for it as if they could've acted otherwise. I think free will is an illusion - we're victims of our genes and environment. I view "bad people" the way I view a grizzly bear wandering around a neighbourhood: it's a problem that needs to be dealt with but I don't blame the bear for being dangerous as if it could choose not to be. With violent criminals this might mean locking them up, but not as punishment - just to protect others. They're broken people and it's not their fault. If I was in their place I'd act the same way.

    This all applies to good people as well btw.

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