The Catholic Church generally doesn't care whether you personally obey its teachings. It states its position and people are free to ignore it. BTW, you do the classic mistake by unifying “religia” and “ecclesia”, which shows that you do not understand well the Christian Church and religion. Also, is the Catholic Church even the giant boogeyman you're making it out to be? Christianity has been declining across much of the Western world for years, especially the Catholic Church.

What's more interesting, however, is your selective outrage. You pointed out right away Christianity, but you seem also be perfectly comfortable with Islam, which is at least as large globally and often far more socially conservative on the very issues people complain about when discussing Catholicism.

But that's pretty typical partisan behavior. Some people on the left have blind spots about religions they view as “protected” minorities. Some people on the right have blind spots about religions they identify with. Everyone's principles tend to become flexible when their preferred tribe is involved.