▲ 623 ▼ Your Worst Dating Decision Was Probably at 19 (thelemmy.club) submitted 3 months ago by Picasso@sh.itjust.works [M] to c/Couplememes@sh.itjust.works 87 comments fedilink hide all child comments
[–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 1 point 3 months ago (9 children) Why is maturity important again? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 9 child comments replies: [–] blockheadjt@sh.itjust.works 7 points 3 months ago (4 children) Immaturity leads to poor decisions, disregard for consent, short-sightedness etc permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 2 points 3 months ago (2 children) Would liking Pokemon, believing anime is real life, and having a cringe sense of humor count as immaturity? Asking for a friend. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] OldSageRick@lemmy.zip 8 points 3 months ago Not necessarily, you can have all that and still act with maturity permalink fedilink source parent [–] PieMePlenty@lemmy.world 5 points 3 months ago* To a degree, yes, but that's not the problematic kind of immaturity. One can be immature in some things like believing in monsters under the bed (things that don't matter) while being mature about fire while camping or alcohol and driving (things that matter). permalink fedilink source parent [–] baines@lemmy.cafe -1 points 3 months ago lmao plenty of idiots maturely making stupid decisions permalink fedilink source parent [–] explodicle@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 months ago (3 children) Most of the time "immature" is just a vague insult when someone doesn't conform to the speaker's norms. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 3 child comments replies: [–] Trainguyrom@reddthat.com 2 points 3 months ago (1 child) As a parent who also has some younger friends, maturity is more about decision making skills, particularly under pressure. When SHTF do they shut down or do they figure out how to move forwards? Do they call for help when out of their depth or do they just flail and make things worse? Do they step up and do what needs to be done to get things going in the right direction or do they just let problems compound until it's a bigger challenge? This is maturity. Being able to figure out what you need to do and then doing it, and adjusting when things don't go how you expected is maturity. Immaturity is being unable to step up when the time demands it. Unable to comprehend when to take something seriously vs what you can blow it off. For example, interpreting maturity as purely "societal expectations" is indicative of immaturity permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment replies: [–] explodicle@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) Most of the time purely I certainly wish everyone used your definition, and hope I didn't give the wrong impression with my comment. Edit: the claim that critiquing this practice itself is immature is a bit of a bulverism. permalink fedilink source parent [–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 2 points 3 months ago Experienced this literally when my grandparents said "come back and eat here, you are not a baby". I had very good reasons not to eat, they just can't comprehend this anymore. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] blockheadjt@sh.itjust.works 7 points 3 months ago (4 children) Immaturity leads to poor decisions, disregard for consent, short-sightedness etc permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 2 points 3 months ago (2 children) Would liking Pokemon, believing anime is real life, and having a cringe sense of humor count as immaturity? Asking for a friend. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] OldSageRick@lemmy.zip 8 points 3 months ago Not necessarily, you can have all that and still act with maturity permalink fedilink source parent [–] PieMePlenty@lemmy.world 5 points 3 months ago* To a degree, yes, but that's not the problematic kind of immaturity. One can be immature in some things like believing in monsters under the bed (things that don't matter) while being mature about fire while camping or alcohol and driving (things that matter). permalink fedilink source parent [–] baines@lemmy.cafe -1 points 3 months ago lmao plenty of idiots maturely making stupid decisions permalink fedilink source parent
[–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 2 points 3 months ago (2 children) Would liking Pokemon, believing anime is real life, and having a cringe sense of humor count as immaturity? Asking for a friend. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] OldSageRick@lemmy.zip 8 points 3 months ago Not necessarily, you can have all that and still act with maturity permalink fedilink source parent [–] PieMePlenty@lemmy.world 5 points 3 months ago* To a degree, yes, but that's not the problematic kind of immaturity. One can be immature in some things like believing in monsters under the bed (things that don't matter) while being mature about fire while camping or alcohol and driving (things that matter). permalink fedilink source parent
[–] OldSageRick@lemmy.zip 8 points 3 months ago Not necessarily, you can have all that and still act with maturity permalink fedilink source parent
[–] PieMePlenty@lemmy.world 5 points 3 months ago* To a degree, yes, but that's not the problematic kind of immaturity. One can be immature in some things like believing in monsters under the bed (things that don't matter) while being mature about fire while camping or alcohol and driving (things that matter). permalink fedilink source parent
[–] baines@lemmy.cafe -1 points 3 months ago lmao plenty of idiots maturely making stupid decisions permalink fedilink source parent
[–] explodicle@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 months ago (3 children) Most of the time "immature" is just a vague insult when someone doesn't conform to the speaker's norms. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 3 child comments replies: [–] Trainguyrom@reddthat.com 2 points 3 months ago (1 child) As a parent who also has some younger friends, maturity is more about decision making skills, particularly under pressure. When SHTF do they shut down or do they figure out how to move forwards? Do they call for help when out of their depth or do they just flail and make things worse? Do they step up and do what needs to be done to get things going in the right direction or do they just let problems compound until it's a bigger challenge? This is maturity. Being able to figure out what you need to do and then doing it, and adjusting when things don't go how you expected is maturity. Immaturity is being unable to step up when the time demands it. Unable to comprehend when to take something seriously vs what you can blow it off. For example, interpreting maturity as purely "societal expectations" is indicative of immaturity permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment replies: [–] explodicle@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) Most of the time purely I certainly wish everyone used your definition, and hope I didn't give the wrong impression with my comment. Edit: the claim that critiquing this practice itself is immature is a bit of a bulverism. permalink fedilink source parent [–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 2 points 3 months ago Experienced this literally when my grandparents said "come back and eat here, you are not a baby". I had very good reasons not to eat, they just can't comprehend this anymore. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Trainguyrom@reddthat.com 2 points 3 months ago (1 child) As a parent who also has some younger friends, maturity is more about decision making skills, particularly under pressure. When SHTF do they shut down or do they figure out how to move forwards? Do they call for help when out of their depth or do they just flail and make things worse? Do they step up and do what needs to be done to get things going in the right direction or do they just let problems compound until it's a bigger challenge? This is maturity. Being able to figure out what you need to do and then doing it, and adjusting when things don't go how you expected is maturity. Immaturity is being unable to step up when the time demands it. Unable to comprehend when to take something seriously vs what you can blow it off. For example, interpreting maturity as purely "societal expectations" is indicative of immaturity permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment replies: [–] explodicle@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) Most of the time purely I certainly wish everyone used your definition, and hope I didn't give the wrong impression with my comment. Edit: the claim that critiquing this practice itself is immature is a bit of a bulverism. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] explodicle@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) Most of the time purely I certainly wish everyone used your definition, and hope I didn't give the wrong impression with my comment. Edit: the claim that critiquing this practice itself is immature is a bit of a bulverism. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 2 points 3 months ago Experienced this literally when my grandparents said "come back and eat here, you are not a baby". I had very good reasons not to eat, they just can't comprehend this anymore. permalink fedilink source parent
