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Anybody want to commiserate on something that sucks?

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[–] [email protected] 30 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Dating in hellworld fucking sucks so hard, dating while fat is even worse

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 year ago

Amen. It normalizes devaluing people's feelings and lying for self-defense

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)

For real. Dating is such an uncomfortable space and I know classism was always a thing, but the body shaming is a nightmare when people can just scroll past or filter you out.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It's not that as much as I've never been somebody's first option in anything. Not relationships, not friendships. It's a very, very, very, rare day when someone hits me up to hang out.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago

Oh, I see what you meant now. Thanks for clarifying it for me.

When you're not treated like anybody's first option, that really hurts. For be what it's worth, I'm sorry that you're experiencing that.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

things not go well with that boy?

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Uhh yeah, he already had a boyfriend. Everyone's already taken it seems. I've asked out several people and they were all already taken.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

ah, thats rough. it really does feel like no one is ever single anymore.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I can't even imagine how shitty online dating has gotten since I found someone and got married. And the "touch grass" alternatives (including the memetastic "go to le bar") sound horrible in their own ways for single people.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

yeah, Im struggling to make friends personally. I dont want to go to bars, people who go to bars are there. i think i need a hobby like roller derby. I hear roller derby is mostly queer women and enbys. but i gotta get in shape, and buy roller skates. theres one near me that is proudly trans inclusive and they need people.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I dont want to go to bars, people who go to bars are there

That is such a real mood and it's haunted me for decades without putting it to such words.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

haha glad I could help