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okamiueru@lemmy.world So, believe it or not, "would you recommend this product" isn't generally a proxy question. They're actually trying to determine if you might be a a marketing vector, and/or priming you to recommend the product to others.
Take a look at the responses I've gotten here. Apparently, it's not possible to ask the question you're suggesting to neurotypical humans, as they'll undoubtedly infer from context you mean something else. I got sufficiently annoyed at their seeming inability to understand a rather simple concept. Not sure what to tell them, or you, other than my original basic premise of "word the question in such a way as that answers are useful to what you want to know, from all types of respondents". In which, I would agree with you. That is, in fact, the question being asked.
okamiueru@lemmy.world That's not actually what anyone has said. They said that NTs subconsciously use context clues and fill in gaps, making assumptions about what you're asking if it's unclear to them. No one has said they'll undoubtedly infer that you mean something else.
There's a big gap between the two.
You seem to be inferring what others are saying, and that inference differs from what they've actually tried to communicate.
Wouldn't that make it what you referred to as a proxy question?
Edit:
If that's what they tried to argue, I think its no wonder it got nowhere. What a case of no shit, Sherlock.