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[–] 5 points 3 years ago* (last edited 3 years ago) (3 children)

Bad take. I don't want it to be up to me as a trans person to educate anyone anymore.

No, this is a bad take. You're in the best possible position to educate people about your own thoughts, feelings, and what it is like being trans. Your voice can make changes that would help other trans people. If everyone shared this attitude, the only people educating others about trans would be non-trans people who have no idea what it's like to be trans.

If they truly are in bad faith, you would still have to engage them beyond reading one question to know that for sure, and this side of the LGBTQA+ community has a really bad habit of immediately being triggered by pretty much any questions about trans topics, regardless of how they are presented or by whom.

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  • [–] 5 points 3 years ago (1 child)

    It's not a trans persons responsibility to have to explain their existence though. Can you imagine how exhausting that would be? Give them a break. Give them some cover. I actually love all my trans friends and I try to listen and see what they want. I don't put the burden on them to be the trans explainer in all situations.

    I just give them love when they need it, and an ear when they need it. I think, just like all of us, they just want to exist and not be hassled about it most times, and if given the right space and the right moment they might tell you about their experience and maybe you'll get a chance to help.

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  • [–] 4 points 3 years ago

    I see this as being the difference between covering a friend and coddling them. I'll defend everyone in this community with my life if it came to it. But I'm not going to coddle anyone from non-threats, and take the time to actually make sure if someone is simply curious or is a bad faith actor before hand. While it can be obvious sometimes, many times it's just a non-trans ally who wants to learn. I think it's best to give benefit of the doubt at first, until any ulterior motives are exposed.

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  • [–] 3 points 3 years ago* (last edited 3 years ago)

    I read this thread and I agree with you. I can't give up on those who don't understand.

    I wanna add though, I chose Blahaj Zone (the trans safe space instance) because I'm finding arguments distracting. I think at this point, I get a lot more pride and hope out of finding out an artist or musician is trans. Everytime Pigstep plays in minecraft I just stand there and enjoy it.

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