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You sicko perverts disgust me! You ruined my lesbian hucow session! Now I'll never lactate!

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[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Yeah, there are uncomfortable power dynamics at play for those roles

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[–] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 4 months ago

Yeah! It’s inherently abusive because of those power dynamics.

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[–] Ziglin@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago (1 child)

Wait, why exactly? I can see it being a problem in some cases but I wouldn't assume that it is generally a problem. The way I see it it is just two people who are loved ones of a common other (which is not uncommon in polyamorous relationships as far as I know) and the power dynamics would be dependent on those relationships, of which I would assume there is no inherently more powerful one.

The acceptable age ranges do imply something icky between the parent and step parent though.

I should also note that I have not had step parents or children at any point in my life so far and may be unaware of otherwise obvious things.

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[–] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 4 months ago

It’s the power dynamics. A step-parent is in a position of greater power than the child of their partner. It is incredibly unethical to use that position to persuade a younger person to have sex with them.

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