Therapyspeak is a weaponized toolkit for typically BPD/sociopaths/narcissists to manipulate the situation into them always being right, and the only person whose thoughts and feelings and intentions matter.

It is extremely unforunate that this is the case... but it is the case.

Here's a maybe relatable shit test:

Are you having conversations with a person that resemble diatribes/debates from SexPestiny or Thor/PirateSoftware?

They conceed a point, and then immediately minimize it, flip to another rheotrical/emotional attack angle where they are the victim or you are the perpetrator, never actually allowing anything approaching a consensus as to the actual facts of the matter, all stated together?

Yep, that's a sociopathic narcissist that put a bunch of skill points into therapyspeak/debate rhetoric.

They're grandiose, and slippery; they'll do anything to avoid someone else being able to nail down the actual factual foundations of their argument or perspective.

They do this because they must maintain narrative control/framing, everything is a battle of image and reputation, not the actual things that those originate from... thats both their strategy and just part of how their brains work.

They're essentially incapable of realizing or fully processing that they've made a substantial error, and they're also basically just not capable of separating 'how they felt about something' from 'something'; at best this is enormously difficult for them, as they have very poor ability to regulate their emotions.

You have to disengage once you know they're actually doing it. Same with any manipulative behavior. But if you're really not sure, I've had luck pressing them on why what they've said doesn't make logical sense. If they can't support it, I can dismiss it and disengage.