I was raised to address strangers and those I wish to show social deference to as "Sir" or "Ma'am". It's a difficult habit to break, as it is deeply engrained.

What is an equivalent gender neutral honorific that is relatively common in English? If I can't break the habit I'd rather have a substitute word to use instead of an awkward pause in the middle of addressing someone

I'd just use Google to ask but I'd rather ask the people directly rather than an AI generated answer based off of Reddit threads

ETA: I suppose if Yessir and Yes'm work, Yesn't could too? Mostly joking… but maybe… 🤔

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[–] 33 points 5 months ago (4 children)

I was raised in southern hospitality, so I know exactly what you’re going through.

I just stopped using pronouns altogether.

“Excuse me” “Thank you” “I appreciate you” “Do you know the way to San Jose”

Turns out 99% of interactions don’t depend on what genitals a person’s rocking. I guess if you’re asked to identify a suspect in a crime it might help? Point being, stop focusing on their crotch and what they’re doing with it 😁 you’ve been trained to be weird about it.

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  • [–] 18 points 5 months ago (3 children)

    I just stopped using pronouns altogether.

    “Excuse me” “Thank you” “I appreciate you” “Do you know the way to San Jose”

    ALL of these have pronouns. At least one of them has multiple pronouns! Haha

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  • [–] 8 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    What are talking about? Said it perfectly fine, are being intentionally dense. Sorry but people like annoy the shit out of.

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 child)

    Didn't be a pedant, and don't laugh after being a pedant. It's condescending and rude.

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  • [+] -7 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    I can't not address a person, that's incredibly rude.

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  • [–] 10 points 5 months ago* (1 child)

    You can address someone without gendered pronouns... they even gave examples.

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  • [–] -3 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    I can and do address people without gendered pronouns. OP was suggesting not addressing them with an honorific at all.

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  • [–] 2 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    That might be the words they said while completely ignoring the examples, but those examples made it abundantly clear that they meant gendered pronouns.

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  • [–] 0 points 5 months ago

    Their examples:

    “Excuse me” “Thank you” “I appreciate you” “Do you know the way to San Jose”

    The individual they are speaking to is not formally addressed. I'm not going to address a stranger informally.

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