Fun story: this guy I know on my gaming Facebook group would complain about being single. This was an older men's group/dad group. He'd repeat whatever the manosphere would say and ask for validation, and we (usually married dudes) usually say things like, "Yeah man dating is hard" and "women give mix signals".

Finally, mods called out how his last 10+ posts were complaining and his shitty attitude is just sucking the energy out of the group. They warned him that if he kept it up, they'd ban him from the group until he fixed his behavior.

Fast forward to today - he's telling us about his new girlfriend he met on NYE and how they had a amazing valentines. He shared how after that post, he took a long look at himself and stopped sabotaging himself.

That isn't as true as you think. Communication is often the weakest part of any relationship (romantic, platonic, professional).

Everyone has their own language and very few people are willing to adapt to someone else's way of communicating, even when that effort should be mutual.

let me see: 99.9% of interactions man-woman are started by man right?