Didn't know where to post this but man, I so get it.
As a Canadian who is under direct economic and now physical threat by magapolitik: yes and no.
The entire thing is NOT victim blaming. If two thirds of the electorate supported the fascists, the remaining third is both victim and responsible, and the ONLY way to fix this problem at the moment is for that demographic to recognize it, despite the education system and popular culture suppressing nuance in thinking.
So often, the apologies or calls for sympathy are founded in a deep individualism and shallow civic duty. Yeah, it’s your neighbours who are the soil that grows fascism. You have to fix it at the root: education, civic development, secularism, humanism, community, collective action. You have to heal rifts of creed and work hard to eliminate racism, and realize that the endgame of capitalism is always oligarchy and imperialism.
So yeah ‘fix your shit’ applies when we feel like “service neighbours” for your absolution, as we are not going to make you feel better when we are stressed by your collective existential threats and you are showing a distinct lack of responsibility.
On the other hand I know of lots of folks who are already preparing to support refugees, particularly trans etc., so we are being practical here about the active victim situation, not just keyboarding.