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[-] KAtieTot@lemmy.blahaj.zone -1 points 2 months ago

I think that's more of a tell on your own insecurities if the notion makes you uncomfortable. You can't tell if someone is gay, even if there are some trends/social queues.

[-] ozymandias@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 2 months ago

you should look up “gaydar”

[-] KAtieTot@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I feel that was covered by saying "trends/social queues"

"Gaydar" is just making a guess based on social queues. Maybe it's an educated guess but it is a guess.

[-] AsoFiafia@lemmy.zip 8 points 2 months ago

I completely agree with you.

I hate to be this person, but I have to ask: did you mean “cues?” A queue is a line or an order.

[-] ozymandias@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 2 months ago

no, that’s how someone straight would guess….
gaydar is more of an intuition

[-] KAtieTot@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 months ago

Intuition - "quick and ready insight; the power of knowing things without conscious reasoning."

Iunno, I think that's covered by "social cueues and tendencies". Your intuition is still fueled by the things you perceive and isn't magic, or necessarily accurate.

[-] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 3 points 2 months ago

But the trends and social queues are important for how people view you, and how people view you has a big impact on your life. e.g. imagine you were trying to flirt with people but everyone you talk to assumes that you're not into their gender.

[-] KAtieTot@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 months ago

Just because you can guess doesn't mean you can definitively tell.

This thread has been great for reminding me that nobody on the fucking planet can read.

[-] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 1 points 2 months ago

Right back atcha.

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