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Embarassing Kinks? (lemmynsfw.com)
submitted 9 months ago by to c/asklemmynsfw@lemmynsfw.com
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How do you feel about yours. I'd say that I'm a cuck in nature and while watching Porn I've had fantasies about people who even disagree with me politically to be my father figures and even fucking my mom.

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[–] 4 points 9 months ago (1 child)

I really like being bit and feel a little embarrassed about it. Especially because it often leaves marks. Not very freaky compared to some kinks I know but I wish I could just not care and people wouldn't judge. That's not the world we live in.

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  • [–] 2 points 9 months ago (1 child)

    I don't know why you'd be embarassed, but maybe I've simply forgotten some category of how to feel shame.

    Are you getting bitten/hickies on highly visible areas?

    ... there are many places one can bite that aren't easily visible.

    Do you go all the way up to breaking skin and bleeding, or just a quick chomp... or more like little, targetted nibbles?

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  • [–] 3 points 9 months ago* (1 child)

    No it's just bruising, breaking the skin would be too much for me.

    I just don't like having to worry about where the marks end up or wearing the right clothes to cover them. It would be nice if everyone just accepted kink as normal.

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  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago

    Ah, ok, so... basically hickies? Or more like chomps?

    I guess I am kind of confused... in my experience, bruises from biting either come from sucking for a long time, or from biting pretty hard, pretty fast, but just barely not hard enough that it does not actually break skin.

    Beyond that though... on the one hand, I get that being judged for a kink sucks, but on the other hand... significant, consistent bruising is generally a highly noticable thing, and most people are noticing it because a bruise is a sign of an injury.

    Like, I did a fair amount of martial arts, would often have various levels of cuts or bruises or strains... and I also had to explain a fair amount of times that no, I don't need help, I don't need to talk in private... I do combat sports, I know basic combat medicine, I'll be fine.

    I don't really think there is a safe social paradigm you could have in a society where bruises are not noticable, commented on, concerning, because at the most basic level, they are noticed because of an empathy compulsion, an instinctual, genuine concern that you may be in a bad situation.

    You'd have to like, literally genetically modify humans to remove that basic pattern response, and the social behaviors that arise from it.

    And if you somehow did have a bio-social paradigm where bruises were not just concerning by default... well... you'd probably end up with a fundamentally much less empathetic species/society, that just would not be very concerned by all kinds of violence.

    And we are already a very violent species.

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