Ah, ok, so... basically hickies? Or more like chomps?

I guess I am kind of confused... in my experience, bruises from biting either come from sucking for a long time, or from biting pretty hard, pretty fast, but just barely not hard enough that it does not actually break skin.

Beyond that though... on the one hand, I get that being judged for a kink sucks, but on the other hand... significant, consistent bruising is generally a highly noticable thing, and most people are noticing it because a bruise is a sign of an injury.

Like, I did a fair amount of martial arts, would often have various levels of cuts or bruises or strains... and I also had to explain a fair amount of times that no, I don't need help, I don't need to talk in private... I do combat sports, I know basic combat medicine, I'll be fine.

I don't really think there is a safe social paradigm you could have in a society where bruises are not noticable, commented on, concerning, because at the most basic level, they are noticed because of an empathy compulsion, an instinctual, genuine concern that you may be in a bad situation.

You'd have to like, literally genetically modify humans to remove that basic pattern response, and the social behaviors that arise from it.

And if you somehow did have a bio-social paradigm where bruises were not just concerning by default... well... you'd probably end up with a fundamentally much less empathetic species/society, that just would not be very concerned by all kinds of violence.

And we are already a very violent species.