resipsaloquitur comments on Anon thinks there is a bicurious double standard

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[–] resipsaloquitur@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I’ve discovered that emotional availability means you’re available to mirror her emotions. If she’s mad, you better get mad. If she’s sad, you better get sad.

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[–] Electric_Druid@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

Conversation about this can be helpful with the right person. I felt rather one sided in the emotional validation in my relationship. We had a long emotional talk about it and things are better now.

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[–] JasSmith@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 year ago

Yes! We need a translator because what many of them say is not what they actually mean. I kept being told I was emotionally unavailable. So I started opening up more, which killed the attraction pretty quickly. What they meant was that they wanted me to listen to them and react in a way which implied I felt their feelings. Most women definitely DO NOT want a man who is in touch with his emotions or is "emotionally available." They want to feel emotionally validated.

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