Users from 4chan claim to have discovered an exposed database hosted on Google’s mobile app development platform, Firebase, belonging to the newly popular women’s dating safety app Tea. Users say they are rifling through peoples’ personal data and selfies uploaded to the app, and then posting that data online, according to screenshots, 4chan posts, and code reviewed by 404 Media.

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[–] 50 points 1 year ago (25 children)

Yeah. I mean, I get it. The concept of the app makes sense. And I would be that, on average, it is/would be used for good.

On the other hand, as a guy, the idea that people are out there sharing reviews of me as a person on the open internet, and I have no way of knowing this, is deeply unsettling. Like, I haven't done anything wrong - just the whole concept feels very gross.

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  • [–] 10 points 1 year ago

    You could ask someone you know to register and share the login, it's a flawed concept. There's probably a bunch of partners in there who didn't even know their boyfriend used their info to create an account to check on themselves.

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  • [+] -24 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (20 children)
  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago (16 children)

    as a woman or woman categorized person

    Can't tell if you're being transphobic to trans femmes or supportive to femme leaning enbies.

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  • [–] -4 points 1 year ago* (15 children)

    Well im talking about external interpretation of ones identity rather than one's intended expression, so you figure it out. Or don't.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (14 children)

    I'd say that's supportive of femme leaning enbies rather than transphobic towards trans women.

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  • [–] -4 points 1 year ago (13 children)

    There are other things it could be. Interperet as you like.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (12 children)

    Wait, so you are being transphobic?

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  • [–] -2 points 1 year ago* (11 children)

    That was one of the things you proposed. Im suggesting there are other potential meanings, that you did not propose. i will not be explaining what i do mean any farther than i have; i think i already did a decent job for people reading in good faith with capacity for complexity. I'm done with this conversation, it's already substantially damaged my respect for humanity.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (10 children)

    If I wasn't participating in good faith I would've just assumed you were saying something transphobic from the start, but I gave you the benefit of the doubt. Then I said you sounded like you meant the positive (not the negative) of the two things I thought you meant and you said you didn't mean that. So... I'm not sure how you think I'm not participating in good faith when I did all that. Even now I'm not writing you off as a monster, I'm willing to hear what you have to say. I'm waiting for you to tell me what you meant, but you're just being vague and refusing.

    I don't know what's more good faith than giving you two benefits of the doubt and willing to give a third if you'd just explain.

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  • [–] -3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (9 children)

    said didn't mean that

    Confident I said no such thing. Cite me doing that. Dont actually, i just didn't, but go look at why you think that.

    if you'd just explain

    Read what i wrote. Or my explanation of it. I feel like i was as thorough as i could be without being condescending.

    good faith and

    Shame i didn't write anything after the clause

    entire thread of howling misogynist shit heads glad a bunch of women got doxxed

    I'm just about done with this fucking place and im done going out of my way to explain myself to people who arent making any effort to understand. Communication has two sides, i cannot hold up yours, and i don't need the internet to talk to myself-an activity that offers more gratification and novelty, while costing far less disillusionment and alienation.

    benefit of the doubt

    Think of me what you will. Hell, accuse me of being the spawn of robert galbraith and adolf hitler. I have very few fucks left to give about this place.

    done

    Damn. Seems i said that too early. But i feel like I'm done now.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (8 children)

    Communication has two sides, i cannot hold up yours

    I feel I've communicated well. You keep not explaining what you meant. I want to know. But you're refusing to tell me.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago* (6 children)

    This was your explanation.

    Well im talking about external interpretation of ones identity rather than one's intended expression, so you figure it out. Or don't.

    I'm good faith, I assumed the best by saying this.

    I'd say that's supportive of femme leaning enbies rather than transphobic towards trans women.

    Rather than agree with me, you said this and refused to elaborate, going so far as to tell me to interpret as I like. When I only have two possible interpretations, one positive and one negative, I don't know what else you'd want me take away other than the negative.

    There are other things it could be. Interperet as you like.

    So I clarified, in good faith, it you meant the negative thing.

    Wait, so you are being transphobic?

    You were vague and refused to give any explanation. I thought it might be two things. When I asked if it was one of them, your response seems to heavily imply it wasn't that one, but refuse to give whatever third thing it might be.

    That was one of the things you proposed. Im suggesting there are other potential meanings, that you did not propose. i will not be explaining what i do mean any farther than i have

    So... What is it? Because you're saying that I am "not making an effort to understand" when I am in fact bending over backwards to give you benefit of the doubt and understand what you mean. You say communication has two sides and you're done trying to uphold mine when I am desperately seeking clarification on what you said but you just refuse to provide it.

    I'm just about done with this fucking place and im done going out of my way to explain myself to people who arent making any effort to understand. Communication has two sides, i cannot hold up yours

    What have I missed?

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    I did and I'm asking for clarification.

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  • [–] -1 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    You're in luck! I already provided some!

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago* (2 children)

    Where? And don't tell me to look up or read again because I recounted the conversation as I understood it already and went over with you that you're not being clear, so if you're acting in good faith tell me where?

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