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‘If I switch it off, my girlfriend might think I’m cheating’: inside the rise of couples location sharing (www.theguardian.com)
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[–] 33 points 1 year ago (6 children)

This is a huge no from me. My SO doesn't need my location, and sharing it has a lot of potential downsides, like:

  • phone manufacturer selling it to advertisers
  • gov't getting it and I accidentally trust trigger some alarm
  • data getting exposed in a breach
  • apps without location access getting it through some means

There's a lot of potential downside and the upside is... my SO knows when I'm almost home?

Yeah, no. Maybe I'll share if I'm doing something risky like hiking alone, but that's never staying on constantly.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago* (3 children)

    I don't agree with the practice but I do see the point - it reduces anxiety and gives your partner a sense that you're okay for relationships where trust is strong. For toxic relationships this should absolutely not be a thing.

    As far as governments or companies selling the data... You can use some self-hosted services on a de-googled GrapheneOS or LineageOS install and use sattelite location only. Then, pipe that to said self hosted solution that doesn't sell your data like homeassistant or whatever.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Idk, I think it would increase anxiety for my SO, and we have a lot of trust. For example, if I take a coworker home, go out to lunch, etc w/o telling my SO, and they see that deviation in my routine, they could start doubting that trust. But if they just don't see it, they just rely on what we tell each other, and if it's not important, it doesn't need to be communicated and can't create that anxiety.

    At least that's my take. My SO is really trusting, but also quite anxious because of nonsense they read on SM and whatnot, so a deviation can create a lot of unnecessary concern.

    But yeah, I wouldn't be completely opposed to a self-hosted solution here. I use GrapheneOS, and if the UX isn't too terrible (i.e. easy to toggle off and on), it could be really useful for something like going hiking alone or whatever.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago* (1 child)

    if I take a coworker home, go out to lunch, etc w/o telling my SO, and they see that deviation in my routine, they could start doubting that trust

    This means there are still significant insecurities in the relationship that can bubble up and become problems, and you know about these.

    You do not trust your spouse to trust you and not misinterpret your intentions.

    Paradoxally You can defeat some of this insecurity by being transparent and welcoming misinterpretation if you believe you both have full trust in each other.

    As a high anxiety person myself, this works to defeat the anxiety which is often feared of the unknown. By proving that deviations to your routine are not something they should feel anxious about, then that anxiety can melt away.

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