About "fucked" this and "fucked up" that, personally I just see it as laziness and weak language skills. Always reaching for the bazooka because hunting for the scalpel is too hard. But it's probably a bit generational too.
On empire, it's the story of humanity. Every nation in the world has been either the author or the subject of imperialism, and it's usually nonstop back-and-forth. Sure, the European empires were the first to cross seas, but why should that change anything fundamentally?
Personally I find it interesting to observe the relative fates of those countries that choose to dwell on their imperial victim status, and those that don't. Look at the different outcomes of Algeria and South Korea, for example.