Of the people I've encountered this is the more realistic portrayal of a racist. Granted, I'm white so have a hard time detecting when other whites are racist, but when they are it's always in the more subtle ways of upholding and defending toxic hierarchies.

I'm sure there are plenty of people who will outwardly rant and rave, but I feel like those people lack the social power to be a real threat (though their lack the self control might make them a more immediate physical threat) .

With enough self reflection, that can turn around into changing their opinion at a systemic level. Sometimes all it takes is few comments from someone they trust, and some time to process.

I know that probably you didn't mean it that way, but it sounds as though you're excusing Raymond.

Nothing new here, who doesn't know someone who is very pleasant on the surface and a complete sociopath underneath?