I usually go in the women's room because people clock me more feminine than masc. Men's room is very risky because they might not care but they might also be violent. If the bathroom is busy I pee sitting down so no one sees my feet facing the wrong way, I don't really like it and it feels awkward to do which is why I pee standing up when it's not busy or no one else is in there. I have been caught a few times and the women gave me shit for it, though it was always yelling, chastising, or slurs, they never got violent with me. Most violent one got was grabbing my ear and escorting me out of the bathroom. I don't know if I could trust the men to do the same. I heard a story of a trans woman who was physically and sexually assaulted and murdered in a men's room. That story is very much burned into my mind.

I usually try to avoid public bathrooms in general but lately that's been harder.

I usually end up holding it in so the one at my house ;(

(If it's bad I go to the bathroom which matches my agab though but it's not been necessary often)

Men don't give a shit about who is in their bathroom, in my experience. Women, on the other hand, often stopped and harassed me when I was presenting female but cut my hair short (AFAB).

That's what I usually do. Some people get mad or annoyed with me but I imagine it could be physically dangerous to go into the men's room.

I think I'd disagree there, unless youra woman walking in half undressed i doubt you'd get more than a questioning glance if that, on top of the fact that it seems like a much lower bar to pass as male.

Honestly, short of the Karen type who is looking around for things to get pissed about you probably won't hear much of a fuss in the restrooms themselves on either side, really seems like the butt hurt people are men worried about who's going into the women's room, or women worried about the potential rather than anything that's actually happening in the moment.