Whenever I see comments like these, and their posters are asked to ellaborate, they usually always end up with something along the lines of "Well I wanted to be transphobic in peace and they wouldn't let me".
I won't ask you to elaborate. Don't know if it's your case, don't care either. At this point if you are seriously attempting to conflate .ml with the other two instances you are undoubtedly engaging in bad faith. But if this wasn't already a red flag in its own right, you went out of your way to confirm it by saying that ".ml is legitimately worse than reddit in basically every way".
You are not "thousands of users" and it's quite pretentious of you to project your experience onto so many people. However, by adding fuel to the constant fire of the never-ending tankie discourse on Lemmy, you are helping making this place hostile to everyone except for a very thin fraction of the political spectrum (the one that is allowed to thrive in the West), therefore making it suck on Lemmy for, you know, actual thousands of users of many different backgrounds and creeds that don't share the rabid anti-tankie brainrot.