I'm also ace, but I live with an opposite sex partner, so that helps me look less queer. We're both gender non-conforming (I'm non-binary, he's unlabeled), but that's something we can tone down.

I can't tell if you're in high school or college. Things got easier for me when I moved away for college. I got to figure out who I was, away from my family and people that knew me as a child. I went to an engineering school and it was wonderful to have a bunch of other misfits to hang out with. Looking back, I think my new friend group was very non-neurotypical.

Anyways, I hope you find a good, supportive friend group.