This is exactly why its such a bad word to use to describe this, it automatically puts people on the defensive and needs to be explained to people that it doesn't mean what the word means (rule of the fathers).

Thank you for pointing out this. I hat the term 'patriarchy'. I can see the people here using this term are trying to make a point. But it seems to me, that the wording 'patriarchy' hints towards to that ultimately men are to blame. It is also unnerving that feminism tends to excuse problems that women really have is systemic, while trouble that men have is caused by individually shitty behaviour.

I very much would like a society, where every human regardless of gender is being met with the same empathy.

You know, I hadn't really thought about the benefit that LGBTQ+ acceptance plays in this.

Of everyone who has been so supportive of me, it's been my queer and non-binary friends.

I am a straight white male with money. While it upsets me to see women saying stuff like this post, I also know that I am not going to blame the women perpetuating the problem, because they themselves are victims of toxic masculinity and established gender norms.

You cannot simply be angry at a woman for being cold and heartless.

Yes, we can. Patriarchy or not, there are some awful people and behaviours being described in these comments. And while the "patriarchy" no doubt plays a role in enabling that, people also need to take ownership of their behaviour.

Where do you draw the line? Where do you stop blaming patriarchy and start blaming the people who have a fucked up sense of right vs wrong?

A man that screams at his wife when he's angry, that's patriarchy or that's on them?

A man that quietly belittles his wife?

A woman that does these things to her husband?

If there's physical violence I'm sure you won't repeat your previous message and say that they're victims as well.

It's terrible to see. It's another feature of the patriarchy and toxic masculinity - blaming the victims. It's why it has been going on for so long.

In a similar vein: Why do women not report rape? This is why. Because even women have been so oppressed by the system that they will even question "if they were asking for it."

My point still stands, no matter if there's discrimination or not, some people will continue being shit to others and pretending they're shit because of the system we live in is removing all their agency. "It's ok if you're a bad person, it's just because [insert reason that is out of their power]."