Where do you draw the line? Where do you stop blaming patriarchy and start blaming the people who have a fucked up sense of right vs wrong?

A man that screams at his wife when he's angry, that's patriarchy or that's on them?

A man that quietly belittles his wife?

A woman that does these things to her husband?

If there's physical violence I'm sure you won't repeat your previous message and say that they're victims as well.