Yeah, it's hard. We had a miscarriage a few years before our kid, and nobody really gave a shit about the effect it had. Hell, my fuckstick boss made me take (bullshit noise) after hours alerts from the fucking hospital room.

One of the many times I've used malicious compliance to change policies.

You deserve better people around you!

I don’t have any tattoos, but if I ever got one it would be 4 small circles. Three would be filled in and one would be just an outline. It’s not much, but as a father of four pregnancies but three kids it would be a small little reminder just for me. My logic has always been if I’m going to be marked on the outside, it should reflect how I’m marked on the inside.

Four years later it still stings. I wish you peace; I wish I could say talking about it with other people has helped, but I can’t.

I'm so sorry. My wife and I are trying to conceive and after two years of trying we got a positive. Then another a few days later. We were aware that we shouldn't get our hopes up, but despite that how can you not? We were so excited.

Then the spotting started. Then another test still showed positive but it was so faint. It turned into desperately trying to bargain with the universe and convince ourselves that these signs didn't point to the obvious. But the obgyn confirmed it a few days later.

For us it was only ~2 weeks after the first positive, and I can't even imagine how hard it must be to lose it later on. I'm still devastated. We're still trying, but I'm not sure how much fear is going to be mixed in if we manage to get another positive.

That's a rough place. You don't want to bring it up to often, nor allow any situation make them feel as if your sadness or grieving is due to them at all. Been through a situation like that, not fun. You want to be a rock, but also human, while not allowing that humanity.. which is part of the problem.

That sucks. A miscarriage is basically losing a baby, if you've been thinking about it like one. I still think about life with the son that my wife and I lost in a miscarriage.