I'd been thinking about this for a bit today, I used to own it but I see it pretty differently now.

I kinda realised that I'd basically done all my growing up over the last 4 or so years. That wasn't my past, I was in someone else's life and I didn't know how to play that character. I didn't grow or change or do anything interesting, I just coasted to some destination I was meant to reach to finish a story I wasn't meant to be part of.

Now, I'm living my life instead, making my own decisions, liking the person I've become and telling my own story. The only downside is that I started with 20 years of baggage that I've gotta slowly get rid of.