And it probably colored my experience a bit differently.

This is a good point. I have a son and most of the kids involved in the programs I volunteer with are boys (or at least male presenting, they're young so who knows who they will be in 10 years). You saying this has helped me appreciate how my experience has been colored. When I am a male mentor figure to a boy, his mother sees a positive male role model teaching and supporting her son and dad sees a patriarch training a recruit. There's the same low level paranoia about pedophilia that permeates any interaction an adult man has with any child, but it's not the same level of paranoia as when an adult man interacts with a girl child. When I am interacting with girl children, mom is more likely to see a threat and dad is more likely to see a queer, because interacting with children is women's work. Also, by age 8-10 I'm sure girl children have started internalizing the very real dangers of maleness to them as young women.

I'm thankful that for the most part these are just vague societal undercurrents and systemic forces rather than factors that play a real role in my day to day life doing volunteer work. Really I just want to be a safe person to kids including nd/queer kids and teach them to value and understand the natural world.