can either be allowing it or simply not disallowing it

Exactly.

When I go take a shit, did you allow it, or not disallow it? Neither, because you have no agency over me, so it'd be a stupid fucking sentence.

I'm not saying he thinks he owns his daughters like some 16th century inbred minor noble.

But connotations and implications can exist even when they weren't particularly intentional by the writer (or speaker.)