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Want the freedom to be able to die (lemm.ee)

submitted 4 weeks ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Posting from a throwaway. [TW contains a little bit of internalised ableism and touches on Suicide and Firearms]

I’m heavily disabled. Like can’t move or get out of bed type disabled. And sometimes lose the ability to communicate.

Anyways most of the time I’m happy to be alive. But the fact I couldn’t kill myself if I wanted to really makes me feel trapped. I take medicines given in a daily pill box, I’m IV fed water and food, and I can’t get out of my bed. There is literally no way for me to end it.

All I’m doing is laying here draining my family’s resources. I love learning, and most of the time that’s enough. But when the pain get’s really bad, or my disease starts to progress or worsen. I just want it to end. And not even having that option, or being able to communicate it, is terrifying. Like I could be stuck in an endless cycle of pain and suffering and not be able to let go even if I wanted it.

At the same time, in better periods I’m glad I’m alive. And if I did have a gun on my bedside table, I can remember more than a dozen moments I’d already have ended it. It’s like I only need to feel suicidal 1% of the time for my life to end if I have access to a weapon, so the other 99% feels glad that I don’t.

I don’t know what I want from this post. But I guess this is my message in a bottle. I needed to get this out there and throw it away.

If you’re here, thanks for reading. I hope your day went well. Peace.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Thank you for sharing.

My partner is disabled (not as impacting as you but rather impacting still), and I was really annoyed at relatives who tried to offer hope and advice when her symptoms started. Hell is paved with good intentions, so to say.

A few questions, if you don't mind me asking : you mentioned you were a math student, did you have a preference for a particular field ? Are you still learning maths, or did you switch to other things ?

Are you able to / do you listen to music ? Any particular preference ? Same question for movies and TV shows. Any other form of entertainment you are able to experience and enjoy, when your condition permits ?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (1 children)

I’m deaf and mute. I was focusing on Manifold Learning but due to neurocognitive deficits I’m unable to continue with math. I’m able to use my phone and communicate sometimes but most of the time I’m only able to be alone with my thoughts. But I do enjoy watching some repetitive shows when my condition permits (animated sitcoms tend to be the easiest to follow with my cognitive problems).

Though what I spend most of the time I’m able to go on my phone is endlessly scrolling through wikipedia and learning new things, it’s what really excites me.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Anything interesting you've randomly learnt recently that you'd like to share ?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (1 children)

Due to my memory problems I don’t remember most of what I read for long. But I really enjoyed a deep dive into learning about purpoises the other day. If you’re ever bored, or want to get through a commute, reading random wikipedia pages and seeing where the links take you is quite enjoyable in my opinion.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 weeks ago

Once again, thank you for taking the time to share about your experience. I hope your deep dives take you to interesting places, friend.