That's a pretty bad misreading. These are about how material accretion is not to be valued too much, especially in comparison to kindness and serving God. (The latter story also says "If you wish to be perfect", not "you must do this to get there".)
Your parents finding out you're not a virgin will have you disowned in plenty of Christian households.
That's sad to hear. Even as an agnostic, I know nicer Christian sects.
That doesn't allow us to throw up our hands and let murder cults exist.
Most people of faith aren't those radical maniacs you see on ye olde telly. Radical [blank]s exist in nearly every field you can imagine, and since they're radical, they're gonna be vocal and take over all your anger-driven feed. To assert that all religions fester and allow hate simply isn't true. Radicals will turn to everything they can find to justify their stupid beliefs.