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Women of Lemmy, do you mind being called cute? (lemm.ee)

submitted 4 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Or do you prefer other adjectives? Do you consider it to be insulting or do you take it for a compliment if it was meant as one? (Assume an amenable relationship between the two people, not a random stranger or creeper)

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[–] [email protected] -5 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Scientifically this has been proven again and again. Good looking saying something, getting something, doing something is acceptable. Unattractive has no access to the same things.

I've pondered this a few times now I'm older. When younger the things I could say to women and get a positive response was amazing, compared to now I'm older. I was fit, good looking and cheeky.

It's just what it is. Attractive always wins. Be it income, access or acceptance (in your example).

I'm OK with my age and not being as attractive as I was, but every now and then the cocky young man in me wants to complement a lady, but I move on. The moment passes. I've matured emotionally and happily carry on.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago

Oh don't get me wrong, I'm the Ugly girl!! I also have no chance and ususally guys say "just die" on the internet. It's not a man problem or a women biases, its a ugly ppl vs pretty people problem