Are liberal trans people inclusive and trans positive? I can't say they are when they support neverending wars overseas and jerk off to war criminals that have undoubtedly killed, maimed, or otherwise harmed many trans people, e.g. Joe Biden, Hillary Clinton, Kamala Harris, etc.

'Dunking' on them is a pittance in comparison to support for slaughtering our own community.

Personally, I think you should rethink how you think about your own instance, 196 is a cesspool and its clear that most trans people find it offputting. I first heard of y'all as the 'trans friendly' instance and looked at your front page and saw a complete shitshow on the front page (re: ONLY 196), and obviously you aren't federated with all trans spaces so I chose to go to lemmy instead.

Here's my sublist if you want to know

because everyone defederated with them

(Cis guy but can offer an answer to this) Hexbear is quite a large instance that was unfederated for a long time. It also has a strong and specific political leaning and a very particular instance culture. The combination of these factors has caused more than a little friction between hexbear and other instances - something I say with no intention to assign blame to hexbear specifically. While I have personally had plenty of what I will politely call strong disagreements with hexbear users I do think that the majority of it is innocent. It's a big instance with a brash culture and strong opinions, so a lot of people's experience with hexbear was "a lot of loud dogpiling anyone that disagreed with them" even though the hexbear users were just earnestly interacting with the fediverse as usual. This resulted in a whole heap of defederations, and pawb.social is apparently among the group that did that