▲ 1212 ▼ This is just adorable (lemmy.world) submitted 2 years ago by The_Picard_Maneuver@lemmy.world to c/lemmybewholesome@lemmy.world 135 comments fedilink hide all child comments
[–] ripcord@lemmy.world 18 points 2 years ago (2 children) It's...weird to me that not only is this not true for you guys or anyone you know, but you have a hard time imagining it could be true. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] nikaaa@lemmy.world 5 points 2 years ago (1 child) Emotional relationship vary wildly, and I repeat wildly across different cultures worldwide. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ripcord@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago That's true. permalink fedilink source parent [–] rwhitisissle@lemy.lol 2 points 2 years ago* (2 children) Every single long term relationship I've ever been witness to has been defined by either eventual resentment between partners, or a pervasive sense of apathy between them. The people I've seen who really "make it last" aren't affectionate towards one another after being together for decades: they're codependent. One person supports another person's narcissism and the other person facilitates their partner's alcoholism. That sort of thing. On a more fundamental level, I'm not sure I even believe that the concept of lifelong partners or lifelong marriage is natural for human beings. Being a part of a community, sure, but being emotionally attached to the same person in the same way forever? Not really. I think it's in our nature to constantly grow, and that typically means growing apart. In fact, that might be a lot healthier for people than the alternative. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [+] FlorianSimon@sh.itjust.works 5 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] rwhitisissle@lemy.lol 2 points 2 years ago Right. That's why I didn't say "it's impossible for things to be this way," but instead said "this is what I've seen." It's possible that I've just happened to see the worst of long term relationships by virtue of bad luck or environment. I don't discount that possibility and I'm not saying that my limited experience of the world represents the sum total of all human potential. permalink fedilink source parent [–] SreudianFlip@sh.itjust.works 1 point 2 years ago We're planning our 30th anniversary party. We still flirt and are both best friends and lovers and don't pass each other in a room without a caress or joke. I'm not bragging so much as to say it happens. Sometimes people keep the remnants of their initial crush and combine it with respect and lust for a whole lifetime. The Pheromones are very strong. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] nikaaa@lemmy.world 5 points 2 years ago (1 child) Emotional relationship vary wildly, and I repeat wildly across different cultures worldwide. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ripcord@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago That's true. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] rwhitisissle@lemy.lol 2 points 2 years ago* (2 children) Every single long term relationship I've ever been witness to has been defined by either eventual resentment between partners, or a pervasive sense of apathy between them. The people I've seen who really "make it last" aren't affectionate towards one another after being together for decades: they're codependent. One person supports another person's narcissism and the other person facilitates their partner's alcoholism. That sort of thing. On a more fundamental level, I'm not sure I even believe that the concept of lifelong partners or lifelong marriage is natural for human beings. Being a part of a community, sure, but being emotionally attached to the same person in the same way forever? Not really. I think it's in our nature to constantly grow, and that typically means growing apart. In fact, that might be a lot healthier for people than the alternative. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [+] FlorianSimon@sh.itjust.works 5 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] rwhitisissle@lemy.lol 2 points 2 years ago Right. That's why I didn't say "it's impossible for things to be this way," but instead said "this is what I've seen." It's possible that I've just happened to see the worst of long term relationships by virtue of bad luck or environment. I don't discount that possibility and I'm not saying that my limited experience of the world represents the sum total of all human potential. permalink fedilink source parent [–] SreudianFlip@sh.itjust.works 1 point 2 years ago We're planning our 30th anniversary party. We still flirt and are both best friends and lovers and don't pass each other in a room without a caress or joke. I'm not bragging so much as to say it happens. Sometimes people keep the remnants of their initial crush and combine it with respect and lust for a whole lifetime. The Pheromones are very strong. permalink fedilink source parent
[+] FlorianSimon@sh.itjust.works 5 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] rwhitisissle@lemy.lol 2 points 2 years ago Right. That's why I didn't say "it's impossible for things to be this way," but instead said "this is what I've seen." It's possible that I've just happened to see the worst of long term relationships by virtue of bad luck or environment. I don't discount that possibility and I'm not saying that my limited experience of the world represents the sum total of all human potential. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] rwhitisissle@lemy.lol 2 points 2 years ago Right. That's why I didn't say "it's impossible for things to be this way," but instead said "this is what I've seen." It's possible that I've just happened to see the worst of long term relationships by virtue of bad luck or environment. I don't discount that possibility and I'm not saying that my limited experience of the world represents the sum total of all human potential. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] SreudianFlip@sh.itjust.works 1 point 2 years ago We're planning our 30th anniversary party. We still flirt and are both best friends and lovers and don't pass each other in a room without a caress or joke. I'm not bragging so much as to say it happens. Sometimes people keep the remnants of their initial crush and combine it with respect and lust for a whole lifetime. The Pheromones are very strong. permalink fedilink source parent
