Because in the video she declares "Russians are a nationalist people" and simultaneously not once clarifies that she disagrees with the government. When you say you love your country it is assumed you mean its government too unless you say otherwise.

They are raised from birth to hate the West and believe their tyrannical government's lies. This compounds the need to expressly rebuke Putin etc for Russians looking for sympathy.

I've heard that some of the wealthy are fleeing so that they don't get affected by the war directly. I assume some are waiting for it to blow over and will return when it's done. Or some might just set up somewhere else.

Of course, it's impossible to tell without the whole picture (which we rarely have). I'm purely basing this off of what I have read and the videos I've seen. So I could be entirely wrong.