I mean...this take is naive. Putting a load balancer up in front of a few servers isn't going to do anything to their database? No idea where you're even getting that from, as they are completely unrelated.
The total number of application servers accessing the database is what would affect db performance in a negative way, and load balancing doest automatically mean "do something stupid like spin up 100 app servers when we normally use 3". All you've described is a need for a db proxy in the off chance that Lemmy code has horrible access patterns for db transactions.
You can take your uninformed nerd rage elsewhere now, thank you.