Sadly it's not that there was "so much" it was that it was "so gay." Berman cracked down hard on that, so there's only hints left.
You mean y'all have adventuring parties that aren't composed entirely of weird lil guys?
I used to only have one (seemingly) female friend, and then that friend transitioned, and I started to worry what it said about me that I only had male friends. Fortunately, a year or two later most of my other friends transitioned in the other direction and balance was restored.
Bards aren't just "a talented musician" they literally use magic. They're basically wizards that went the liberal arts path in college.
You absolutely do not have to RP this. You can say "No." You can say "Ok, you go off and do that, what's everyone else doing?"
Peckromancer
You select the level of abstraction for different things based on what is and isn't the most fun to delve into. If your group enjoys poking every surface with a 10 foot pole, it's not wrong to play with that level of granularity. It's just that all the interesting things you can do with a 10 foot pole are pretty mined-out after 50 years so we tend to direct our attention elsewhere.
I just feel bad for the loincloth mimic.

Also worth noting, when doing group stealth, you're effectively limited by the least-stealthy party member, since it usually only takes one person getting caught to give the game away.