My last 2 weeks have been a bit rough:

first there was an insurance issue I am still dealing with because my employer failed to submit relevant information on time. Payment will be effective only after employer submits correct information.

Then my employer claimed that someone had seen me using my cell phone while at work (theoretically, that’s not allowed, but everyone checks the time now and then, and normally it doesn’t affect the quality of the work). They claimed this happened eight weeks ago. I simply replied that I couldn’t remember anything like that.

This week I received a ticket from the transportation authority, where they claim I boarded a ship without a valid ticket, something I am appealing. I’ve never done this before but my friends are helping me. It's not so much about the amount as it is about the feeling of being trampled on. I even showed the employee a copy of my ticket I had on my phone with my whole name, address and price I paid, but he ignored it. I already sent my side of the story to the authority and I’m waiting for an answer.

The thought of being forced to pay for a ticket I paid and showed as a copy of weighs heavily on me. I know I shouldn’t give it more importance that it deserves, but they way that employee treated me, the employee ignoring me, my explanations and the copy I had on my phone gives me an eerie feeling of injustice, that something is broken. I’ve been using that boat for 5 years and never had such an issue before.

If you are more resilient than me, how? I feel lost and as much as I’d like to forget about it I flash back to it, I cannot concentrate and I’m not sleeping very well.

I'd like to be stronger but I'm not.

I know most of you want to answer IGNORE REDDIT!!, WE ARE SO MUCH BETTER!!, USE ONLY THE FEDIVERSE!! which I do, but there are several problems with it:

the fediverse sometimes looks like a cult, only a marxist one: China and Russia are good, there are concentration camps in Ukraine, Ukraine belongs to Russia, like Taiwan belongs to China, Israel is a genocidal state, China is so much better than the US...

Some mods on lemmy show the same level of intolerance as some mods on reddit.

I stopped using reddit years ago but I still lurked because some communities there, mostly the non ideological ones, don't have an alternative: on lemmy there are so many subs with absolutely no content, or one post written 4 years ago, 20 users and 1 visitor per month. That's not an active community.

reddit won't stop its enshittification but for the time being there is no alternative for the communities I'm interested in, mostly non ideological ones about medicine, nursing, philosophy, religion, dementia, autism, biology...

And I'm not looking for communities were medicine, biology or dementia are used as an excuse to rant against the current POTUS or to introduce me to the greatness of communism, I really only care about the topics I mentioned.

For some websites that require a log in I use archive.ph but I don't see how this would work with reddit.

Any ideas? I'm not creating an account with reddit.

I’m not saying get a loveless marriage to have children, but do get in a loveless marriage to save on taxes, pool resources, living separately, not having sex, like roommates. I'd be playing the system.

Am I broken?

about history, human nature or science. Examples would be Antony Beevor, Atul Gawande or Carl Sagan.

Let me explain the question: I have several hobbies like playing the guitar, sometimes singing, walking and enjoying nature, reading and lately sunbathing while hearing an audio book.

Playing an instrument, singing and reading end up being tiring, even if I enjoy the music and the reading. I feel I have to stop after being concentrated for an hour.

Quieter hobbies, like walking to enjoy nature end up being boring as well. The only completely passive hobby I have is sunbathing and it all depends on how interesting the audio book is.

Sometimes I’d like to practice a hobby, but I’m so tired I end up lazying around, watching a stupid youtube video but thinking I should do something else.

What else could I do? Any other completely passive hobbies?

No drugs, no alcohol.

I’m thinking about quitting.

I work with a forklift moving stuff between several warehouses. My manager doesn’t want me to do extra hours. Fine, then I want to go home exactly when my shift ends.

My shift ends at 5 pm. Before going home I need to take the forklift to a garage 10 minutes away and to recharge it. Then 5 minutes to walk back to the office where I clock out.

On my last shift, I received 2 assignments at 16:30, starting at 16:45 because trucks weren’t already there. Obviously, even doing just one of them means extra hours will be made.

I informed my manager sending her a message with our notoriously unreliable smartphones (issue for another day I already complained about). First I asked her if she wants me to log extra hours today. No, she said, then I told her if I have to do even just one of those assignments, extra hours will be logged in. Then she called me, accusing me of bothering her for the last 10 minutes and demanding to know where I was. I was already waiting for the trucks at 16:35, when she called me, but trucks were not there.

She then sent and deleted several other, smaller assignments at a rapid pace. As soon as I was starting one she would delete them. This happened 3 or 4 times.

She settled for a small one and even with this one I logged in 10 extra minutes, leaving my workplace at 5:10 pm.

What I want to tell her:

Are you aware you give me contradictory orders? If my shift ends at 17:00 and I need 15 minutes to take the forklift to the garage, if you give me an order at 16:45 I’m obviously going to do extra hours. You have clearly stated you don’t want to pay me any extra hour, which is fine by me, but then why do you keep me sending orders at exactly that hour? If you don’t want to pay me any extra hours my last assignment has to be finished at 16:45. Otherwise I’m logging in extra hours.

I don't see how this can end well, but something has to be done. It's not the first time she's reacted so emotionally and I’m tired.

Before I quit I’d like to try and see if a rational conversation with her is possible. Then at least I tried.

A coworker who was the reason why I was moved to another department (she is friends with the manager) changed departments herself and now I sometimes have to work with her.

First time she saw me at her new position she greeted me as nothing happened, as she wasn’t the reason why I was moved laterally. I replied with a non effusive hi.

I don’t engage in non job related conversations with her, if I have to work with her I just ask her in a neutral voice where is what I need and proceed to do my job. Otherwise I avoid her because I don’t trust her. I don't have to work with her whole shifts or every day, which is good.

The incident I mentioned on my first paragraph happened 2 years ago and I still remember it enough not to like that person. I don’t know if more mature folks would have already forgotten about it but I cannot. Am I holding an unhealthy grudge? I mean I’m happy if I don’t have to see her.

every time I want to talk to my boss about something work related I ask for a private conversation, because this is the way it should be, at least I see it that way.

I work with several forklifts and mistakenly though 2 were broken because I couldn't start them. Because we all need the forklifts and my boss was on holiday I started looking for a mechanic within the organization, always informing the substitute boss as well.

Regular boss comes back from his holiday, asks me to come to the office, asks me point blank in front of everyone else to hear what I was thinking to do that. 2 secretaries and 3 coworkers heard the whole story.

I presented my side of the story and after a short discussion my boss a mechanic and me went to check the forklifts were the mechanic started them, so I was wrong all along.

I apologized to them both and repeated I wanted to save time, because boss was on holidays and I wanted to have all forklifts in working condition, because we all use them extensively.

If I was the boss in this situation I'd have conducted the conversation behind closed doors, not in front of the whole office. It feels like mobbing and makes it difficult to trust this person.

Is this a red flag or am I overreacting?