The comparison between the cultural change that made divorce more acceptable is apt. The shame associated with divorce was so intense that tolerating a certain level of abuse was preferable. As the shame faded, the abuse threshold people would tolerate lowered. The same is happening with abuse by parents.

I feel like the elephant in the room here is adoption of cultural wedge issues by the right and the adoption of political identity as a personal identity of the older generations.

Because they're entitled abusers

I told my parents that they could choose their religion or to be a part of my life. You can already guess that is why I no longer speak to my parents.

They use their religion as a crutch to keep them from having to emotionally grow. If I even tried to sit down and have a realistic discussion, it would simply devolve into thought-ending clichés (e.g. it will all work out in the end).

When I see my parents next year at my brothers wedding, I’m going to tell them that we can work on our relationship in the “next life.” And I will likely add that I don’t believe that will happen, but it’s up to them to decide to do anything different. I expect nothing to change.