Asklemmy

Cruelty towards those who are relatively weaker or indeed defenceless - children, the elderly, partners, animals.

Abusing service / customer-facing staff fits in to this as well and is at once particularly revealing and particularly damning. Next time you’re out and about with friends or a love interest watch how they treat (or talk about) e.g. the person at a ticket booth or the person waiting on tables - if they’re nasty to them (or about them), imagine what they might be like behind closed doors (and how they might treat you one day).

Being perfectly fine not knowing something and not caring to get answers aka willful ignorance.

Why don't you want to know?!!! How is it that the thought proceding "I don't know" is not immediately "but I want to find out"?! We can't know everything but we have so many answers at our fingertips. As if you don't want to absorb as much of it as you can?!

It immediately makes me think that the person I am speaking to is not worth my time. Chances are, the more they're willfully ignorant about, the more likely they'll also not care about how their actions affect others. Major red flag for me.

Edit: I should've mentioned I was thinking of particular types of situations where the person has the mentality of "oh man, I don't know, it'd be cool to know that" and proceeds to not do anything about it or when they are regurgitating something they heard on foxnews with such blind conviction without bothering to look into it further

Capitalist rent-seeking. Feeling entitled to make a profit off doing nothing except buying a resource other people need, because you already have enough money to do this. Maybe "despise a person beyond belief" is a bit strong, but I hate that people do this, and I hate that it's condoned and even admired in capitalist societies.

Cutting others off excessively. It's normal when you're in a large enough group for there to be some overlap, but some people do it constantly and are only interested in hearing themselves speak. Makes being around them impossible since I often have trouble speaking up anyways.

Edit: I took instantly to mean on first meeting them, so I may have interpreted the question wrong lol

Edit2: I also should've been a bit more careful with my words, as this kind of behavior can be attributed to an anxiety response and isn't always done out of apathy. I really apologize if I offended anyone by overgeneralizing.

People who are unable to control their anger. Especially if they let it go into shouting and being physical.

I get being angry. We have all felt furious for various reasons. But nothing good will come from throwing a tantrum. Behaving like an unstable manchild will only make me loose my respect for you.

Celebrity worship. If you spend all your time on instagram or TikTok following the latest trends and being emotionally affected by the behavior and actions of a “celebrity”, then we probably have nothing in common and I probably don’t want to have a conversation with you.

Being rude to restaurant servers and retail workers just because you can. Instantly flips my opinion on anyone who does this.

Also people who litter. It’s amazingly selfish.

Narcissism and superiority complexes are the two main showstoppers for me.

When people get offended on behalf of others, especially when their stupidity harms the people they claim to be offended for.

Case in point, the Hogwarts Legacy situation. It made trans people look unhinged by association, even though the seemingly vast majority of them were cis progressives.

And if I as a trans person mention how I don't feel represented and don't appreciate what they are doing? Suddenly I'm a Russian troll or something. So stupid.

• people who are irrationally argumentative. Even when they agree with you, their sentence starts with "No, " and it drives me nuts

• people who litter, especially people who litter with a bin in sight. People who let their dog shit and walk away I guess also fall under this category

• people who hate others because of their sexuality, gender or race

Despise beyond belief? Hurting animals. Hunting and fishing are fine, I'm talking about kicking puppies type thing

Not being aware of others and how your actions and being affect them.

Very simple example: fuckers who walk towards you on a sidewalk and don’t even blink (edit: I meant think but this is funny nonsense lol) about moving an inch to the side to avoid hitting you. Like looking straight past you not budging even a bit…

I learned that my boss's boss has never changed a diaper and he has three children. My opinion of him instantly hit rock bottom.

Any kind of snobbery/looking down on people - especially if it's based on income or occupation.

Hating minorities or believing in a one party system of governance.

The slightest hint of financial superiority. Snobbery, if you will.

Bigotry.

The only thing I can remember is this person who bragged about buying few domain-names and just waiting them to go up in price. I can almost understand companies issuing SSL certs selling domains, or having some services along those domains.

But in this instance it was a national domain, meaning the state handled the top-level domain and all infrastructure and work related to keeping tabs on the domain names. What they did was buy general words when they were cheap and popular, and just sat on the domain name for all this time. They still haven’t done fuck all with any of them, just waiting someone else to go through with the business plan they thought for five seconds some decade ago, and then extort that company for money.

So taking limited resources as a speculative investment is the only thing. Generally any form of investment where you expect to extract money for doing absolutely nothing except having an idea and paying some of your pre-existing money to hoard it.

You aren’t even inventing an idea at that point. Infact, you are relying on the idea being obvious enough that someone in the future will actually do something along those lines. It’s not an innovation. Absolutely nothing happened outside your own head until you swooped in to charge a fee on someone that actually did something.

Littering, or any other type of casual damage to the environment.

I suspect a lot of yall should say this:

There is nothing worse than seeing my own flaws reflected in someone. Like, if they're a lazy neckbeard who talks about niche media and old-sci-fi while contributing nothing to society.

Especially the flaws i had when i was younger. I die a bit every time i see an unaware selfish arrogant teenager.

People who hurt animals or tease them to annoy them to get a good laugh. If I'm ever in a situation weather to save the animal or that person, the person does not get saved.

Bigotry.

Well, maybe except "Oh, I'm sorry, I didn't know / didn't think that this is shitty thing to say", these at least can be educated

Anything right-wing.

Narcissism. Instantly 100% less of a valid person when you can’t see outside yourself.

Manipulative ones. How do people not feel dirty when lying, coercing, and threatening to get what they want?

Not being able to admit when you are wrong.

Also not apologising. For example when people don't say sorry for being late.

Thinking your opinion/ethics have a high ground compared to others

"What you want is..."

I want people to stop telling me what I want.