It just turns into a boring semantic argument about what "controls" means. The relationship is emphatically not a one-way vassal thing like the party line was on the western left until, say, mid-2024. None of us really anticipated how thoroughly liberal institutions had been captured by zionists until our friends were pinned down on the college quad being tased repeatedly by thugs and people were fired en masse for the mildest criticism of indiscriminate slaughter.

You are getting tired of trying to explain something because the thing you're trying to explain isn't true. It was true at one time, and no longer is. Things change, the tail wags the dog. Miriam Adelson is not giving Trump hundreds of millions of dollars and getting zero influence in return. Epstein didn't run an elite pedophile blackmail operation for no reason. Chuck Schumer, leader of the opposition party in the senate, states that his job is to "keep the left pro-Israel". Elected democrats are on the wrong side of an 80/20 issue with their base because of AIPAC and associated orgs giving them unbelievable amounts of money. Rubio and other sources said yesterday that Israel was the driving force for the US attacking Iran.

Let's look at an actual vassal relationship, like the US and the UK for instance. Think about the last time criticizing the UK got anybody in even the mildest bit of employment trouble in the US.

It's not exactly what you're looking for, but the first thing I think of is always this famous clip of Biden laying out part of it very plainly:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FYLNCcLfIkM

Andreas Malm has a great response to the argument the Israel lobby controls the united states: https://archive.org/details/the-destruction-of-palestine-is-the-destruction-of-the-earth/page/n73/mode/1up

This doesn't feel like the best time to be trying to make that argument lol