I'm primarily concerned with privacy and security, thus the interest in Delta Chat to begin with, but it seems to me that all the relays (at least the ones on the delta chat site's list, that is) are hosted in 5 eyes countries or countries that will soon be subject to the EU's chat control bullshit, or are in India or South Africa (two countries which I do not know about their own privacy situation, though the SA server is a ".wang" which is hilarious.)

Is there any relay that I can sign up for that's hosted somewhere like Norway, that cares about privacy at least ostensibly? Any other list of available relays?

I'm sure "it doesn't matter because e2ee," but assuredly some metadata must still exist, like sender/recipient or something. Unfortunately self hosting isn't an option currently as idk how to do that sort of thing just yet (one day) and also I'm in a 5 eyes country, so I'd have to VPS it somewhere.