If you don't like him, don't enjoy interacting with him and don't wanna see him, dump him.
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And what's the mistake? Seems he does what you asked him to do?!
I miss talking to him but don't really wanna talk... Especially not via phone.
So you're saying you have contradictory feelings? You want to talk? But you also don't want to talk?
I mean that obviously won't work, these are opposites. So you can have only one of the options. But I think more often than not, the right course of action is to think hard about why you feel that way. And what you really want... And try to communicate that to your partner. I mean having feelings isn't a mistake. You can tell them I wasn't in the mood yesterday, but I'm now. Or I wish I were, but never actually like it... Or ask them how they feel and what they like... Just try not to confuse everyone.
...If it's just the phone, or you avoid talking about a certain subject, you'd obviously need to address that instead.
I just don't like talking on the phone or texting. I often ask them what they like, but to be honest, I just care if they like what I like not what they like, even though I might like it a little. I always wanna do what I want.
I don't get it. So you despise talking to him on the phone but love talking to him in person and wish you'd do more of that? What's so special about the phone? And what's stopping you from focusing on that?
can you not text, call, or hang out much anymore
Apparently you don't like interacting with him at all - at least according to yhis statement.
I often ask them what they like, but to be honest, I just care if they like what I like not what they like, even though I might like it a little.
wut
I always wanna do what I want.
This is a universal human experience. But, while I assume you enjoy doing what you want, I also assume you enjoy seeing someone you like being happy. This is where compromise comes in. That's life.
Anyway, the solution to how your problem is to communicate how you are feeling. Either meet up, or call him, or text him, or whatever, and say
I miss talking to you but don’t really wanna talk… I know this makes literally no sense at all and I'm trying to figure it out myself, but [insert reassurances that you still like him and want to continue your relationship].
This feels like a breakup message but very beating-around-the-bush...
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