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What's a piece of advice you've received that has stuck with you? (dormi.zone)
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[–] 52 points 2 years ago (5 children)

"You're an adult. You get to enjoy whatever you like."

Stuffed animals? Legos? Video games? Cartoons? I've been made fun of all my life for liking "stupid stuff" or "kid stuff" (even as a kid).

I pay my taxes. I've lived life long enough to know that I deserve to be happy. What kind of miserable shit-head would make fun of me enjoying something? Someone whose opinion has no value to me, that's who.

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  • [–] 8 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Thanks, I needed to hear that. The voice in my head not allowing me to enjoy "stupid things" is sometimes unbearable

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  • [–] 10 points 2 years ago

    If it brings you joy, it's definitely not stupid.

    I look back and regret not embracing things I had interest in.

    I was made fun of for my Pokémon cards so I threw them away. I was told that my drawings are weird so I stopped. After being constantly told that video games were "a stupid waste of time" and that I "should be doing something productive", I boxed them up and gave them away.

    Now Pokémon cards are cool and there are worldwide tournaments. I look wistfully at talented artists & animators and wish I hadn't given up. Video games can now be considered "art" and are openly enjoyed by so many.

    I'm too old to let others dictate what I should & shouldn't like. I wear fun clothes, collect stuffed animals, nerd out over Zelda lore, paint miniatures for DnD games. Why? Because I enjoy it and I deserve to be happy in what I like.

    I hope that you will one day feel that you are able to enjoy things openly, too.

    Chin up. Enjoy your happiness.

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  • [–] -5 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    some adults enjoy making fun of other people. they are often miserable shit-heads of course, but let them enjoy their hobby too. doesnt hurt to be able to laugh at yourself.

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  • [–] 14 points 2 years ago

    No, fuck that. That's like the paradox of tolerance or free speech - "tolerate the intolerant," "hate speech is free speech."

    I liked how someone else put it a few months ago: tolerance comes with a contract: tolerate everyone. If you break this contract, you're OUT.

    So, yeah. I'll live and let you live - as long as you don't step on my toes. As soon as that happens, I'll tell you to fuck right off (not you, OP, but that 'miserable adult making fun of me.')

    Of course, if the other party is just being genuinely and harmlessly funny, that's another story.

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