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What's something you used to do/see/say but don't anymore because you don't feel it's right? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Me personally? I've become much less tolerant of sexist humor. Back in the day, cracking a joke at women's expense was pretty common when I was a teen. As I've matured and become aware to the horrific extent of toxicity and bigotry pervading all tiers of our individualistic society, I've come to see how exclusionarly and objectifying that sort of 'humor' really is, and I regret it deeply.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

“Thank you friend” is impolite? Maybe it’s informal, but I think that’s a great solution to the problem. I can’t imagine anyone having a problem with that except maybe an aggro asshole.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Maybe I've just spent too long arguing with aholes on the internet but to me calling someone "friend" comes across as very sarcastic and condescending

Edit, it's like calling someone you don't know "buddy" or "pal"

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm not your friend, pal!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Listen here, buddy!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I could see it online, yeah. If you use a friendly tone in person it wouldn’t be a problem.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Fair enough! I do use it pretty frequently. I would really like it if someone said that to me, so maybe it isn't as impolite as I perceive it. Thanks.